Monday, June 16, 2014

A Sacred Contract

My most beloved brother and Kola in the flesh Tony Goulet is the author of a book titled God Help Me Tie My Shoes: The Sacred Contract of Fatherhood. (Available at Amazon.com or here: http://www.amazon.com/God-Help-Tie-Shoes-Fatherhood) which I just finished reading for the third time and it inspired me to write this blog. By the way, we are so hungry for Indigenous authors and here is one right in front of you so please support a brother and do yourself a favor and buy the book.
OK, enough of the commercial. Tony's book made me remember a scripture from the Bible that reads, “For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counselor, The Mighty God, The Everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace, and of the increase of his government of peace there shall be no end.” This is written by the Prophet Isiah who saw that a child would be born just like all of us but he would be different from all of us. SO different that there would be those who call him WOnderful, Counselor and a Mighty God. NOT Almighty, just Mighty. This guy would be the father of a nation, a nation of peace. I do love how poetic the Bible can be sometimes. Not often but sometimes. By now you know Prophet Isiah is talking about Jesus, and however you may feel about him you have to admit that he was perhaps the one of the all time most influential people to ever live. His words are potent and powerful, his followers for the most part suck eggs. ANYWHOO.... Jesus became a father of a "government" which in a deeper meaning he brings about a paradigm breaking thought process. As a adamant, damn near militant, non-Christian I look at what kind of son was Jesus. Considering who his father was, what was the way that he fulfilled his part of the contract. One thing that has stuck with me from long long ago was something that Minister Farrakhan said. I'm paraphrasing here but he said that the quality of your sonship will determine the quality of your fatherhood.
Powerful.
The two heads of the Christian and Muslim faiths both said that whatever was commanded of them by God they would do without question. They both had totally surrendered their wills over the care of God. Jesus said it this way,  “Whatsoever I hear, that shall I speak. Whatsoever the Father commandeth me, that shall I do.” Both ended up become the leaders of a new way to proceed in life. Like Sequoyah, Sitting Bull, Buddah,Wavoka and The White Buffalo Calf Woman, these people of God brought about new knowledge that was actually just inside of us all the time but we had forgotten it and that is why they came.
Before anyone assumes, hell NO I am not lumping Tony into this group, his book gave me inspiration. He's no more a part of the above mentioned than you are.
If we followed the examples of them we would become good fathers.
Jesus referred to God as "Father" and if is OUR father then whatever He did for Jesus and all the other prophets it just makes sense that he can do it for us. They were humans after-all, just like you and I. How do we follow in the steps of a Buddah or a Wavoka or a Crazy Horse or a Muhammad? Study and then follow by example. This takes discipline. If a behavior or a thought process no longer serves a purpose in our life other than the will of The Creator of all natural things then it has to be shitcanned. Observe people who have followed, in all of thier actions, seen and unseen, the examples of these 'Fathers' and what type of people are they?  They are people who thru hard work and determination and even practice raised themselves from a lower state to a state of eminece. From my own personal experience with alcoholism and drug addiction I had to practice being a warrior, being obiedent to a son (A sober peer), who is obiedent to a father (Elder) who is obident to The Creator.
Hope that makes sense.
To me if you're a father then as 'head of the household' yhou should be in an elevated state. Some of us did not have a father like that or maybe did not have a father at all. So when we stopped trying to find/replace a father with whatever self-destructive thing we were trying to kill ourselves with we straightened up and in our head we got a vision. Not that spooky NDN type vision but a clarity of thought. The Creator makes all things possible and with clarity whatever we see and whatever we want that is beneficial and positive by our faith we can bring it into existence. I wanted to be free from the obsession to drink and drug, I wanted to be able to come and go as I please and to know some form of contentment. I'm not always 100% content but I have all of those things in my life. By faith it became a reality.
There is a line in the Lords Prayer that reads, "Give us this day, our daily bread." and this makes me think about what are we, as fathers, producing for our children, and in our peoples way we innately know that ALL children are OUR children, what are we producing daily? Giving child support payments or doing some physical action at some point but are you producing everyday?
If you are in a position of poverty and there is want in the house (community) there comes the temptation to get it by any means necessary, illicit means included. Our fatherly position means we have and conjour the faith to keep our children safe from harm and temptation is a harm in this case.
Being a father is a sacred duty. I don't have any biological children but I have many many children that call me Uncle. Like a father my duty as Uncle is and that is most important to me. Faith, like willingness and courage can't be given away, it has to be generated on the inside. This is why sobriety of the mind is as important as sobriety of the physical. I can use the aforemnentioned men as examples for myself. FOr example, real elders and real medicine people NEVER tell you that they are so. They are humble, they are just, they are representatives of the Original People and they fully understand thier role in our community. I want to be that so that I can be a better servant (Uncle/Father) to my family.
We all make mistakes but what a wonderful example we are when we own up to them, when we humbly admit a wrongdoing or slight and actively seek to correct it. Maybe some of us have shitty relationships with our baby mama but what if we change our way of thinking of her and decide to see her as the mother of these most precious and wonderful gifts we call children? What kind of child will grow up seeing a mature, sober, God loving man? The kind I hope to be someday......


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